4-Being The Embodiment Of What I Teach: Facing My Own Negative Self-Talk
Introduction:
My life hasn’t always revolved around helping others with mindset and energy healing. In fact, it’s often true that those who dedicate their lives to supporting others have had to navigate their own struggles first. My journey to where I am today has been no exception. Even as I write this, I notice negative self-talk showing up now and then.
But here’s the truth: healing isn’t about never having negative thoughts again. To live healthily is to accept that life is a balance of both positivity and negativity. The key is learning not to get stuck in negativity for too long—without avoiding or rejecting it. It’s about acknowledging those thoughts, letting emotions flow through, and then choosing to shift your mindset to something positive.
This process is what keeps you from looping through the same negative patterns endlessly. When you allow your emotions to surface, it’s also important to process them in a way that doesn’t externalize them onto others. Creating space for yourself to feel and release is essential.
My Story: Where I Was
In the early stages of my mental and emotional healing, I’ll admit—it was incredibly hard. Years of unprocessed emotions had built up within me, and I lived my life keeping the lid tightly closed so no one could judge me. Bullying in my childhood had left me terrified of being my true self. Over time, suppressing my feelings became so automatic that I no longer realized I was doing it.
I thought the way I acted and spoke was the real me, but in truth, it was the version of myself I unconsciously wanted others to accept. By my early 30s, the emotional pressure became unbearable. My physical health started to decline:
Random bouts of anxiety and anger would hit without warning.
I experienced unsettling heart palpitations.
My stomach issues became so severe that I could barely eat solid food.
Eventually, I hit what felt like rock bottom, and that’s when the light bulb turned on. I connected my declining physical health to my unprocessed emotions.
What followed was a year of emotional eruptions. I allowed myself to fully feel and release the overwhelming, often unbearable pain I had held inside for so long. It felt worse before it felt better, but as I let go, my mind and body began to heal.
Through this process, I gained countless “aha” moments and life-altering realizations. My mindset shifted, clarity emerged, and I found a vitality I hadn’t felt in years. My physical symptoms resolved themselves naturally as my emotional wounds healed. That challenging year was the foundation for the life and career I now love—a life full of happiness and purpose.
My Story: Where I Am Now
While I’ve taken courses, my greatest teacher has been my own healing journey. Everything I share through The Loving Aether—my tools, techniques, and insights—comes from my personal experiences.
I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed by emotional and mental struggles, and I have deep compassion for anyone navigating that path. While my life now feels simpler, lighter, and happier, I continue to use the same tools whenever an uncomfortable thought or feeling arises.
I give those emotions the compassion and care they need to feel heard and acknowledged. Only then can they truly heal. Each time I do, more of the facade falls away, revealing more of the real me—and I genuinely love who I am.
Conclusion:
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that healing is an ongoing journey of self-discovery and self-compassion. Your struggles don’t define you; how you choose to face them does.
Reflection Exercise:
Take a moment to reflect on your own journey. Is there an area of your life where you feel suppressed emotions or negative self-talk might be holding you back? What is one small, compassionate step you can take today to begin addressing it?
Try This Today:
Create a quiet space for yourself to sit with your thoughts. Ask, What emotion or belief needs my attention right now? Allow yourself to feel it fully, and then gently ask, What would I like to believe instead?
Wishing you love and liberation,
Janette
